My husband recently made my day when he told me I was a very good wife, "the cream of the crop". Next to "Well done, good & faithful servant," that's the best compliment I could get.
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I'm sorry, but I have to agree with matt. I really see nothing wrong with a husband, or wife for that matter, letting their spouse know how much they appreciate the other. My wife and I say little things like this to each other all the time and we will be celebrating our 30th next year. When I see the way some couples treat each other and talk to each other, I see nothing wrong with being nice sometimes.
Depends on what is meant by "good wife". If that means a caring partner in a relationship of equals, that's not so bad (in fact, it's downright good). If it means "Stepford wife", then this is a Fundie Stockholm Syndrome nominee.
The "Well done, good & faithful servant" part is from the Bible where God is talking to a believer. I think that Karen O is saying that for her husband to tell her she is a very good wife is as good as if her God were to call her a good & faithful servant. I really don't believe she is saying that this is what her husband said to her.
"My husband recently made my day when he told me I was a very good wife, "the cream of the crop".
I'm glad he took the time to give you a compliment you found meaningful. I hope he meant that to be a compliment of your intelligence and character, not just your ability to serve him.
"Next to "Well done, good & faithful servant," that's the best compliment I could get."
I'm sorry, I didn't realize your goal was to be servile. That's sad. Maybe you're better off not being too intelligent.
Lady, that is just a bit fucked up. Not the fact that being told your a good wife made you happy (as the duties that being a wife entail depend on the individual thus meaning he could have meant you're a great friend/lover/etc.) but the fact that you would rather be called a servant.
You've been brainwashed.
@Star Cluster
The "Well done, good & faithful servant" part is from the Bible where God is talking to a believer. I think that Karen O is saying that for her husband to tell her she is a very good wife is as good as if her God were to call her a good & faithful servant. I really don't believe she is saying that this is what her husband said to her.
I agree. To most of us, the context is unclear, but to her chosen audience, I'm sure they understood perfectly what she meant.
Hey, some of us enjoy being in a D/s relationship. Nothing to be ashamed about, if it wasn't for the fundies calling us pervs... Hey, wait a minute!
Sorry, I would've commented before, but I was too busy vomitting.
I think the quote rankles me because it implies that there is a list somewhere of what a "good wife" does. As if it's a role to step into as opposed to a partnership of equals. That plus having come out of a fundy cult, I know exactly what she means by good wife. Sorry, have to go throw up again...
Just for once I have to say that it has been pulled out of context. However, her world scares me. My dad, a deeply religious catholic man, always says that mom is intelligent and pretty, never that she is a slave or a culinary item.
Whether or not it is in line with other thumpers and the bible is irrelevent. The bottom line is that she has been molded into a pre-ordained role like a hired hand. "Well done....faithful servant?" Doesn't sound like something any of my friends or family would say to me, or me to them. Sounds more like a compliment to my waitress. I hope Karen got a tip.
I just now remembered this post.
Hate to say it folks, but this one isn't fundie.
"Well done, thou good and faithful servant" is from one of Jesus' many parables. In it, three servants of a wealthy man were given sums of money. Two of the servants put their money to use, and were able to declare that they had made a profit. The third one did not put his money to use, and made no profit. The first two were rewarded, while the third was punished.
The point of the parable is to say that you need to make the best out of what you have been given. "Well done, thou good and faithful servant" was what the wealthy man told each of the first two servants who had put their money to work.
<<<the cream of the crop>>>
<<<good & faithful servant>>>
*nudge, nudge, wink, wink* say no more!
{With Apoligies to Monty Python}
Skyfire, the problem is that the woman clearly sees herself in an entirely submissive position relative to her husband -- not just to God, but to her mortal spouse! That's what is messed up here.
~David D.G.
Besides, I have read the post and it´s the typical Bible Belt gawdyness and pendantic Bibble-ridden way of talking, not sexism, necessarily.
I dunno. Maybe the "good and faithful servant" part is her definition, not her husband's. But still, it is a little disturbing to say, kinda like saying "don't thank me, thank Jesus!" when someone thanks you for something.
Meh'd
Its not the kind of relationship I would want. However, they are adults, they seem happy, and they are not bothering anyone else.
Yeah, I think she's talking about "well done, good and faithful servant" coming from God, not her husband. If it were from her husband that would either be horrifying or deliciously kinky, I'm not sure which.
Or "the cream of the crop" could mean he hates or doesn't respect the rest of your family.
Just saying, nuance matters.
Not trying to start anything, but that what I get from that phrase everytime.
"You smell better than your mother" carries as much weight.
Like this song:
"Now you're very much like your mother
And that's a natural fact
But you couldn't look much like your brother's wife
Or anyone like that
And you don't look much like your sister
'Cause she's all big and fat
But don't breath a word to your mean old dad
'Cause I'll be coming back
I'm coming home to see you early in the morning
I'll be around and on the first train today
I'm coming home to see you while day's dawning
All aboard, all aboard
Put on some fancy clothes and meet me at the station
Make sure I don't mistake you for your sister Jane
Don't want to see you with your goddamn relations
That's all for now, I'll se you, ciao"
Supertramp
Coming Home To See You
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