JustAlongForTheRide

@JustAlongForTheRide

unlearningtrans #transphobia

If a therapist is willing to affirm someone’s delusion they’re trans, how is such a profession to be trusted?

If you are unwilling to acknowledge someone’s innate sense of their own gender, how are you to be trusted? If you don’t trust that somebody knows themelves or can at least tell when something is wrong and needs addressing, where does that end?

About ‘creating’ reasons to see clients: psychotherapy doesn’t work that way. For a start, there’s a lot of work out there even if I were to turn down all trans clients. It’s a seller’s market, and getting in front of a therapist can be a tough ask. My books remain full even if I focus on short term work that gives my clients quick return. So no, keeping clients around doesn’t benefit me. If I did that, I’d just be holding up the queue. Aside from that, if I was only interested in money, I wouldn’t have picked psychotherapy. There are far better jobs out there to get rich in. Quite aside from all that, you don’t just tell somebody they have a psychological issue they don’t have. If you try and do that, your client will suss you out. I can tell you this without even trying it - people can tell when something’s off, and a therapist telling them they have a pathology they don’t would certainly set off alarm bells.

winterdragongod and wjones215 #homophobia #fundie

Have you considered, Winterdragongod, that they don’t like the labels you give them?

Allie Beth Stuckey #transphobia #wingnut

You’re comparing food items - something that has no consciousness and exists to be consumed - with human beings, which do, and don’t. This is a retelling of the “let’s compare women to cars / a stamp / a rose / whatever else is the object of the week” in a slightly different form. By doing that, you’re telling on yourself. Transfolk get objectified enough, so let’s not add to that particular burden, shall we? I would say stay in your lane, but it sounds like it’s more appropriate to say stay in your bathroom stall. You’ll be fine.

Although I will say this, @Zinnia - I do actually use cauliflower rice as a rice substitute! My partner keeps to a keto diet and I eat low carb. It’s pretty good actually; it holds a lot of oil (so good for keto) and I’ve figured out how to make it taste similar to fries.

Elgeyo Marakwet mob #sexist #psycho

I read this article, hoping to see something be included from at least one of the girls. They are the most deserving of a voice in this situation.

Jill Colton #racist

Well… sure, you can reject other people because they can’t claim that their ancestors come from the same country as you (and that’s assuming your ancestors actually did come from Canada), but people can reject you for arbitrary reasons too, and I don’t suppose you’ll be so content with that.

Or, you know, you could develop a sense of empathy. Because right now, what you’re doing is the same as too many other people do: telling people they don’t belong to the place they consider home. You don’t have any idea what it’s like to be told that, to be told it so many times it stops sounding like insane rantings (which, frankly, it is) and starts sounding like an ongoing, unwelcoming echo. And lady, I hope you never have to experience that.

Perhaps settle down, enjoy the privilege that comes from living in a developed country, and leave other people to enjoy Canada, which is their home too. You’re neighbours; you’re not going to put all this effort into making yourself and them miserable, are you?

Andrew Anglin #sexist #crackpot #racist #conspiracy

Andy really is grabbing at any and all bigotries he knows of and meshing them all together into one carpet of conspiracy theory for him to wipe his feet on. It’s desperately sad to watch.

The age of consent? It’s needed. It’s not often easy to enforce, but it’s there to protect youngsters, including girls. Legal protection is part of the protective framework that girls and women need, but I think the really big one is opportunity. If we can choose careers, the single life, the polygamous life, lioness living, a life of travel, an academic life, or any other alternative to marriage vs. prostitution, then I guarantee you that many of us would choose one of those alternatives. Prostitution is a horrifying path to tread, and I wish every girl, every woman out there had safer and more profitable choices than that.

Then there’s marriage and civil partnership. As you describe it, Andy, marriage is barely any better of a choice. Choice-starved girls and women will choose it more often, because they must. How is that supposed to be a happy case of affairs for anyone? Do you really think that a man who ‘owns’ or ‘has mastery over’ a woman is genuinely happy? No - he’s stuck a plaster on a broken leg, and then he’ll be unhappy because he’s married to someone who’s scared of him, who resents him, who maybe - maybe - has found some way to get the upper hand in a neverending power struggle she wouldn’t have chosen if she didn’t have to.

Release the pressure on girls and women so they can thrive. Include them so they can pick a life path that works for them, and the ones who choose to make a commitment to you will do so because they want to, because they love you and respect you.

But then again, in order for them to choose you, you’ll have to work on becoming someone we want to be with. And that’s the part that scares you so much, isn’t it? So FFS, go get some therapy, take a weekly reflective walk among the trees, educate and free yourself of the habits of toxic masculinity, and leave the Jews out of your silly little persecution fantasy.

Jill Colton #racist

<@KeithInc.> #181766

Well hey, so this quote’s Blue-Eyed White Jesus-adjacent? If anyone has done something admirable, they simply must be white, right? /s

Tragedy strikes again at Bastethotep’s family #announcement

I can’t even imagine what you must be feeling right now, Bast. Please be kind to yourself, and my DMs are open if you ever need to talk.

DasFeuerDerWahrheit #conspiracy #wingnut #crackpot #dunning-kruger

And the vehicles among Humanity which have the most influence, ten-thousand fold more than simple CARS, are vast transportation & container ships which no average Joe has influence over anyway.

You might want to check your figures. Shipping is the most efficient way to move goods long-distance. Comparing it to individuals in cars is nonsensical - you’re comparing apples with oranges. What’s your point?

DasFeuerDerWahrheit #racist #conspiracy #wingnut #dunning-kruger #pratt

Well, I mean, the vast majority of people are racist from time to time. But that’s because most of us are raised in a white-centric society and, even if we make the best effort we can to stop being racist, we’ll continue to have blind spots where we’re unintentionally racist. And sexist. And ableist. And homophobic/transphobic. And yeah, that doesn’t equal being hateful towards those demographics.

But I don’t agree that most people don’t care. As a global community we care more about bigotry than we ever have. That’s an encouraging development for our growth as a civilisation, and I’m glad we’re here even if we have more work to do. Certainly it’s not a sign of mental illness.

Do you feel antagonised by that, DFDW? Even if there was some plot to antagonise white people for money, how would that work? Anti-racism costs nothing. Or little, if you’re building anti-racism measures into business practice, and it’s absolutely worth doing.

PsalmSevenBooks #homophobia #transphobia

Are you saying “yes” to virtue by not being sexually active, though? And discipline is good and all, but there’s a time and a place for it. A person who is nothing but disciplined can easily become miserable because their life is absolutely gridlocked by rules about what they’re allowed and what they’re not. Same for delayed gratification - sure, it has its place, but why make that your stock answer to everything? Sometimes letting yourself have a bit of what you fancy is good for the soul.

And you think that intimacy can only be done “God’s way”? Many, many people will disagree with you, and they’ll be right because that’s what works for them. If a relationship with another devout Christian works for you, then well, good for you. It’s not your place to decide what’s right for other people.

As for “boys becoming girls” - some people never felt as if they were the right gender and they want to present differently, whatever that means to them. Who are you to say that’s going against your god’s will? And that assumes your god is worth following in the first place. Let them be.

As for me, I’ve had crap parents, and seen many people with crap parents. Apparently that’s what your god intended, and we prefer not to comply. It’s miserable to. I’d have much preferred to have had two dads or two mums who actually thought about what they wanted before they had me. There’s nothing wrong with wanting children, nor wanting to have been wanted. Heterosexual parents don’t necessarily equal loving parents, nor self-aware parents. Why do you think it does? Heterosexuals are more at risk of unwanted pregnancies, after all. How do you think that works out for a lot of us, hmm?

In short, stuff your moralistic bullshit.

PsalmSeven #homophobia #fundie

Someone asked in the comments of this post whether the “rainbow cult” they’re referring to is the LGBT community. I cannot stand when somebody does this “I can’t stand the evilness of these other people” when they’re being vile like this. Psalm, what impact has anyone in the LGBT community ever done for you, hmm?

Masonicon #conspiracy #crackpot #wingnut #dunning-kruger #elitist

Political Correctness(divides people by it's Skincolor

I’m pretty sure it’s political incorrectness that divides people.

Gideon Boakye #fundie #psycho

”…in adhering to these instructions, he lost control and…”
No, he did not lose control. He had control the whole time.

Who made the decision to keep visiting a pastor after he started saying this kind of thing? Him.
Who weighed up his pastor’s malevolent talk about his 9 year old child and decided it was believable? Him.
Who carried out the beating? Him.

Him, him, him.

I do not accept anything that says that a person like this lost control. It’s called personal responsibility.

tockthewatchdog #sexist #psycho

Peacemonger’s right: male suicide rates are a problem and they deserve a thorough look to see what all of us can do to improve or adjust quality of life to reduce it. Whatever benefits men get in our culture for being men, they also have their own, often unique, weights to bear, and a culture of enforced emotional solitude, plus that strange cultural barrier to men seeking medical help, are among them. The solution is a combination of personal responsibility by any individual man and the community he lives in. We all have a responsibility to improve our awareness of these issues.

This anger? I don’t know exactly where it comes from for tockthewatchdog personally, but it needs a more constructive outlet than this. And good lord, they need to work out what’s actually at the root of it and work out how best to make peace with it. We’ll all move on better and quicker once we develop a healthy attitude to our own anger. Then we can actually solve the problems with clear heads. Easier said than done, but that’s the shape of it.

Chuck Lowe #wingnut

Endless lockdowns, closed businesses, mask mandates, and other restrictions are simply running and hiding from the inevitable. The virus will run through a population, leaving a path of destruction, and eventually burning itself out as evidenced by previous viral outbreaks.
Some of these strategies work best when only a tiny portion of the population has the disease. Coronavirus has a lifespan, and if it can’t reproduce within that lifespan, it becomes extinct, at least in that country. So no, it’s far from inevitable. Humans just aren’t that great at responding to the threat of illness.

Many countries have tried locking the door after the proverbial horse has bolted, by restricting everyone’s movement when there were tens, if not hundreds, of thousands of confirmed cases already (and that’s just the ones that are tested for, confirmed, and recorded). To me, a good leader anticipates such things and locks everything down before a disease like Coronavirus takes hold. It would be inconvenient and annoying, but it’s how you keep people alive and healthy, and put a stop to all of this long before businesses start dying.

anon1822 #sexist

Most of us are raised in such a way that some emotions are deemed unacceptable. Overall, girls are given more leeway than boys. I’ll echo Volcheka1 here about anger being far from universally accepted in girls and sorrow in boys. Sometimes it seems that boys are kept on such a tight emotional leash that nothing but anger or stoicism is accepted. But to say that girls are given completely free rein is untrue.

May I suggest, anon, that you look in more emotionally accepting spaces for rein to talk about your feelings? The spaces are that are more toxic towards boys are generally more toxic towards girls too.

Gerald Polley #fundie #homophobia

Total Imbecile #sexist #psycho

Want to bet that I couldn’t blind you before you did any damage at all to me? I’m almost as big as you, sweetie, so try me.

Neggr #crackpot #psycho #dunning-kruger

@TBTabby #52222

Exactly the point I was going to make. If this is how transmission of characteristics worked most people would look like a combination of cows, pigs, and chickens. With a bit of fish thrown in.

forever13 #psycho

Male sexuality is a tool for making him horny and guiding him into making the right mating choice. All while warning him to avoid used up women unable to conceive healthy babies with paternal certainty.
It’s misfiring in your case. You’re lusting after someone who may die or be permanently maimed if she were to have a baby at this time in her life - and would lack the emotional maturity and experience to competently raise a child. She needs the chance to finish being a child first, herself, and then to have the choice over who she has a baby with, if anyone. Do not presume to make the decision for her.

Representative-Way39 #sexist #crackpot #dunning-kruger

Dude, if you think vaginas are repulsive despite never having been in contact with one, I don’t think unkempt vaginas are your problem.

SunnyJohansen #racist #pratt

You do not have the vaguest sliver of an idea of what the black community has gone through, and continues to go through to this day. The riots are happening because an anger that has existed over grave injustice for decades has finally boiled over, and no wonder. I’m surprised the black community tolerated so much for so long, and it’s literally my job to know why people bottle up abuse rather than express it. The tolerance for being alienated, treated unfairly as criminals, scapegoated, and outright murdered has been superhuman, and finally we’re seeing a human response.

Of course we are - black people are people, Sunny.

If this was about looting and taking the chance to commit crimes we’d be seeing people of all colours, genders, and ages doing it. You wouldn’t be trying to imply anything about POC, would you Sunny? Because that would reflect horribly on you.

EDIT: Also, Bobby/Colonel-Knight-Rider/Colonel Knight Rider? Absolute shame on you for defending this bullshit!

SpecialGuestStar #pratt #dunning-kruger

The science is easily available and to demand it in your own echo-chamber is disingenuous in the extreme. But since you’re asking, try the World Health Organisation out for size: https://www.who.int/health-topics/coronavirus#tab=tab_1

cahoots32 #sexist

You’re just one in a long line of people who insist that their problems are the only real problems. And you’re wrong.

As for having live handed to us… I don’t think so. For me personally I never got the benefit of the Bank of Mum and Dad so have had to work my way up with absolutely minimal help. I’m still not ‘rich’ by many (Western) peoples’ standards. There’s no way I’m short-changing some other person to get rich myself, so no, ‘beta-bux’ isn’t a viable option for me on a moral basis. Oh but of course, life revolves around dating, dating, dating, and nothing else, doesn’t it? Well guess what: I got ignored as an adolescent too.

And “tutorial mode”? Hah! I don’t think so, pal! Who’s guiding me through, then? Because if you mean my business mentor then that service is available for free to any entrepeneur, not just women, and my professional mentor charges a hefty price for mentoring me.

As for that false accusation, the statistics are far from in your favour. If I were you I wouldn’t go shouting about how you were falsely accused.

Who’s dissing mens’ self-improvement groups? Maybe you’d be best off giving examples of that, because right now I’m not sure whether you’re talking about radical feminists saying that men don’t deserve a place on this Earth, let alone the time and space to work on themselves, or whether you consider posting in IncelTears to be ‘self-development’ (spoiler: it’s the opposite. Search for the term “crab bucket”, and that’s being generous to the incels in that subreddit) and feel personally aggrieved that women are looking at your posts and laughing at your self-delusion.

ISA41:10 #fundie

That… seems like a brittle approach to Christianity. Surely the important thing to God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, or whoever else you think is monitoring your worship behaviour, is your intention. By social distancing you’re demonstrating care for the other worshippers in your congragation; surely that’s laudable? And if it’s not, is that the right church for you?

Either that or you can’t stand being at home and want to get out of the house at all costs. Honestly - is your complaint in the above quote about faith, or is it about giving yourself some distance from the rest of the family for an hour or so?

Mister Peabody #fundie

Travis really said it well here. I identify as an atheist so don’t perform acts of worship, but I’m pretty certain that you don’t have to get together in a group to worship any god at all. If showing devotion is so important, then find ways to do it at home. As for curtailing people’s rights… *sigh* There’s more to life than “I have the *right* to do X, Y, or Z so I’m going to do it!” All people are asking for is for Peabody to consider the potential consequences of meeting up.

The people cramming themselves into public transport and other public areas aren’t doing so because they “have the right to”. Or at least, I hope they’re not just blindly exercising that right ‘because they can’. Some have little choice - key workers, for instance. Others are just being ignorant, and I really hope they’re not going to end up infecting anybody they love or care about, but unfortunately that is going to happen in a certain % of cases. That’s how viruses work.

Joy Villa #wingnut #pratt

@Peacemonger373 #31751

they want no abortions yet don’t want to increase sex education or make it easy for people to have accessible birth control. They want their cake and eat it too.

That’s such a weird ‘cake’ though. Who on earth benefits from someone not being well educated about sex?

Okay, I know - the people who baulk at sex ed are the ones who want sex to remain the ‘sinful’ thing as they cannot practice their religion in the way they do without there being a ‘sinful’ thing that the ‘bad’ people do, therefore nobody to persecute, and therefore no way that’s meaningful to them of asserting in-groupness and out-groupness, but still. Come on.

[/annoyed at having answered my own question]

Roger Marks #homophobia

Why do I get the impression that Roger went looking for gay people who were complaining about the very real homophobia that they have to put up with on a regular basis, and kidding himself that that means that all gay people are miserable all the time? And ‘studied’? With an outlook like this I’d be very interested to know what passes for study in his world.

David J. Stewart #sexist #fundie

”Women and Girls are Biblically Commanded to Dress Properly “
I’ll go get my short-shorts!

Malte #racist #sexist

Nope, seeing interracial couples doesn’t ‘stick’ in my eyes. It’s two people who have found each other and are (hopefully) happy. And even if we ignore your ridiculous racism for a moment, what’s all this about focusing on how it’s a woman’s betrayal and not a man’s?

David J. Stewart #fundie

Your isolation’s finally catching up with you, isn’t it? Well, I’m not going to say, “we told you so” and I’m also not going to say that it’ll be quick to get anywhere close to putting the ways you have mistreated others right - for some the damage is already done and permanently so.

Complaining about how unloved you are and asserting that you’re a “normal person” (whatever that means) isn’t going to convince people. If you genuinely want to live a life where people think warmly of you, then you’ve got a lot of work to do on yourself. This quote of yours is an attempt to avoid doing that work.

Jayce #psycho #sexist

@KeithInc and @Swede,

I don’t think prostitutes deserve this arsehole but if it’s between him asking one to roleplay and actually committing rape, I suppose it’s vaguely preferable. Far from ideal, though. Reporting him to the FBI, on the other hand? That’s ideal.

ABORTION4JUICE #wingnut #homophobia

KingOfRome #wingnut #psycho

“Our culture would not have been allowed to degenerate to the point where someone's looks and popularity decided their worth as a person.”
Someone feel free to correct me if I’m wrong, but wasn’t the opposition interested in supporting an ideal of blonde, blue-eyed individuals? If that isn’t judging a person’s worth on their looks, what is?

Nobodysfool999 #ableist #psycho

Several of my clients are on the spectrum and honestly, your description here is poor at best. I’ll go so far as to say that my autistic clients are among my best: they are far less likely to have pie-in-the-sky fantasies about commissioning me. If an aspie tells me they’re going to order from me, 49 times out of 50 the commission goes ahead. I cannot say the same for NTs (or at least, people who do not claim to be on the spectrum).

My autistic clients are mostly forthcoming and enthusiastic commissioners, but if I need to say, “I need to focus on something else for now” are willing to take the request at face value because as people on the spectrum, social cues do not come naturally so explicit requests are far more appreciated - and better received. I’m currently dealing with two people who I don’t think are on the spectrum who keep contacting me asking whether I distrust/am angry with/hate them because I have said I don’t have time to talk. Guess what? As a business owner I often don’t have time to talk. That’s the truth of it. No social politics, no passive-aggression, that’s just how it is.

If I could have a client list full of aspies, I’d go right for that. So take your defamatory and incorrect list and shove it where the sun doesn’t shine.

Total Imbecile #sexist

This sounds a hell of a lot like you’re trying to use introversion as a means of points-scoring. Perhaps relating to how hard life is?

I’m deeply introverted. Unlike @Swede, people have tried to ‘make’ me more sociable but that hasn’t been guys, it’s usually been other women, or people of either sex who have tried to bully me because they’ve seen my lack of forwardness as social ineptitude. The irony with that is that the more people try to call out my quietness as ineptitude, the less I want to talk to them, and really, if I don’t want to then I don’t have to. So I don’t.

Do I need attention to live? Not much at all, really. But here’s the thing: you need attention too. If you tried to go full-on hermit you’d end up doing yourself mental damage. Everyone - or almost everyone with very, very few exceptions - need some level of acknowledgement from others.

Are you sure you’re not trying to argue that women ‘enjoy attentionwhoring’ because you notice women a lot? Maybe that’s because you’re either heterosexual or bisexual. I suggest you don’t blame women for your own tendency to find women attractive.

Total Imbecile #sexist

Couldn’t be any less relevant. She’s on the public stage to talk about environmentalism and she does it well. Her partner count has no bearing on that.

Same goes for her looks. Let’s be honest here: you would not respect her any more if you found her more attractive. You’d disagree with her just as much as you do now while simultaneously finding her easy on the eye. Your preferences, just like Greta’s partner count, are irrelevant, so I do not see why you decide to bring them up as a way to discredit her. Those are your preferences and change nothing about Greta.

All you’re doing by estimating her partner count and ‘what she’s getting up to’ is showing off your own obsession with sex. It reflects poorly on you. Are you sure you want to keep doing that?

Colvin76 #sexist

prince-riley #sexist

Once again, I smell bullshit.

As for thanking me… I’d suggest you thank yourself. You’re the one getting yourself up here. On that note, I’d suggest that perhaps you want to think a bit more carefully about what’s going on here. At some point in the future you may regret these things you’re saying.

It’s very obvious to us here at FSTDT that you’re making a fool of yourself, but you don’t seem to recognise that. When things are posted up here you no longer have the power to delete them at your leisure. Think about that, and what it means if you ever decide in the future that you don’t want yourself presented in this way any more.

prince-riley #sexist

Nope, you invented a story so that you had something to brag about to your little group of friends on the Internet. As for what really happened, I doubt anything at all happened, much less a twisted version of the above.

prince-riley #homophobia #sexist

I call bullshit. This is suspiciously similar to your other story. You wouldn’t be telling and re-telling the same fictional story over and over again with slight variations, would you, little Internet Tough Guy?

prince-riley #homophobia

So what you’re basically saying is that when you see a Pride parade, you (knowingly or unknowingly) filter out the tens of thousands of people in tshirts and jeans (or equivalent), and only see the really loud n’ proud ones? Almost as if the tshirts and jeans Pride supporters don’t even exist.

And yes, to many LGBT people, just being out of the closet and explicitly being seen to exist as an LGBT person is an act of courage. There are still many violent homophobes out there. There are still many non-violent homophobes out there who drip-feed gay, bi, trans, etc. people that they’re “only going through a phase”, “unnatural”, “trying to convert children”, and all of the usual bullshit homophobes spout. Yes, showing that they exist is an act of courage - and an invitation to other gay people to feel that little bit safer and a little bit less alone.

Also: child drag queen is a verb?

Prince-riley #homophobia

”The most important thing in a relationship whether its straight or gay is self love.”
And I suppose you’re the one who gets to decide how that love is expressed? And seconding @Swede about self-love being important regardless of being in a relationship or not.

prince-riley #homophobia

Right, right. So lemme see if I’ve got this right: you’ve had some drama involving a gay person, so now it’s best to steer clear of all gay people?

Fucking clown. Yep, stay away from gay people. They don’t need your fuckshittery. And yes, you’re pretty good friends with Colonel-Knight-Rider, aren’t you? That speaks volumes about the kind of company you like to keep.

prince-riley #sexist

Really, dude? You spout hatred towards all feminists, and then genuinely think that the kind of people who see you as a friend would be above assaulting a woman? Look at the stats for yourself: far more women go without reporting rape than make false reports, and most rape allegations are dropped due to lack of evidence. And no, that’s not because it didn’t happen; we women hate to see false rape accusations precisely because it makes it harder for the rest of us to be believed. That and a tiny proportion of false accusations are all the likes of you need to convince yourself that all rape accusations are false.

Go fuck a rusty chainsaw.

prince-riley #wingnut

You’d be right, if only you weren’t cherry-picking the few examples of misguided female/POC/LGBT people you can find and conjuring up strawmen so that you can convince yourself that you’re justified in going on rants like this. No, every gay, black, or female person is not ‘hating/bashing on’ straight, white, or male people. The few who are, are doing harm, but it looks to me as if you’re contributing to the problem by pretending that everyone who isn’t straight, white, or male is out to get you.

”they won't take these insult or hate such as "straight white male" so lightly”
‘straight white male’ is a slur, now? Just sounds like a description of a particular demographic, to me.

Napoleon de Geso #sexist

Jesus Christ man, learn to spell!

And learn something about relationships while you’re at it.

Warren Hurst #homophobia

“I’m not prejudice, a white male in this country has very few rights and they’re getting took more every day,” said Hurst.

List them out, butthole, so we can examine that sentence properly. I dare you.