1) You can't get any self-respecting woman to fuck you (and the site you post on puts the lie to your stated desire for a date when what you really want is either just sex or a human doormat).
2) A dating columnist could give you excellent advice dictated by a diety. It will not do the likes of you any good. If you really want helpful advice concerning your self-defeating desire to fuck people whom you hate, you need a therapist (psychologist, psychiatrist...anyone with training in how to handle your paradox of unhealthy obsession with sex and the narcissism deep within that prevents you from getting any attention from women).
3) The OP is caught in a lie again - and this one is so incredibly easy to debunk - that female dating columnusts (a) have never had relationships themselves and (b) there's an unspoken suggestion that these women are attempting to 'groom' those who ask them for advice. In short, dating coaches make the terrible mistake when writing or speaking to men like the OP - that mistake being to believe the people asking for advice do so in good faith.
4) Most of the men venting their complaints on sites like these are in trouble because they deal in very bad faith with women and (too small) a percentage of them have been punished for violating the law.
I CAN give some effective advice on long-term relationships (in part because, unlike the bottom-feeders who post with the OP, I actually am in a lomg term relationship - married). Moreover I've been 'bkessed,' for lack of a better term, to see several long marriages (45 ~ years) unfold close to me.
There is some truth to the idea arranged marriages fair better than other kinds - and the reason is not, as some assume, that the subjects of an arranged marriage would be penalised for divorce (although some would).
People being groomed for arranged marriage are ideally taught that rational behaviour, such as showing respect, maintaining civility during an argument, a willimgness not to hold grudges, the recognition that each half of a couple is responsible for 100% of their own behaviour, and so on. (This is not in praise of arranged marriage,)
Healthy love generally grows out of respect. The latter can exist without the former, but love cannot exist without respect. Obsession, jealousy, and irrationally can exist without respect, but love - no. That toxic sludge that holds a dysfunctional relationship together is a bad thing - corrosive in ways that, at extremes, can lead to "family annihilators."