Re: male feminist actively working to lower his son's sense of self worth

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(bufedad)
This is great, an entire generation of men raised to not help women, unless women come asking for it?

That's great, it's chipping away at women's privilege a little bit at a time.

(SirSausagePants)
What makes it even better, is that a lot of women expect a man to offer help automatically.

(bufedad)
Remember the news article about the attack on the subway train, and the two guys didn't help?

Did she ask them for help?

No. She didn't, so she had no right to expect their help.

This is going to be fucking great.

I've seen women stranded on the side of the road, and I won't stop to help them. It's just not worth the risk these days.

(karatdem)
If I see a woman who looks woke and independent, I make an effort to not help her even when I get the instinct to do it. I had one situation when the woman even looked at me expecting my help and I looked back at her kind of like saying: "what?".

If she is woke and independent, she is woke and independent for everything.

(Brohemond)
I just don't help women unless they are friends or family.

Stranger women are so off my radar it isn't funny.

(Moonboots606)
I have stopped holding the door for women. Nothing is more infuriating than a rude woman that expects that sort of treatment but doesn't have the common decency to even mutter a simple thank you. That has become all too common for me lately and I'm slowly breaking that habit that's been ingrained in me as a child.

(HeForeverBleeds)
Misandric people should not be allowed to raise boys. This is emotional abuse, plain and simple

(BlueOrange22)
Does this go both ways, or is it "different" when she interjects to him?

(jacksleepshere)
What a fucking gimp, teaching your son not to help people because it's sexist to help women...

(Razorbladekandyfan)
He is teaching him not to insert himself, not to stop being a disposable utility. When his utility is needed, you better believe the father will tell him to act.

(CounterfeitMemes)
So he's there to receive orders? This also goes beyond "teaching him not to insert himself." As soon as you use a word that's clearly gendered and loaded with connotation and sexist baggage like "mansplaining," then you're no longer in the realm of just teaching your son not to be rude.

(Yoji_84)
In a few years he'll be on on this kid's ass because he isn't 'proactively helpful'.

And the kid seems to be a good kid.

(Alphonetic)
Ok. Hope he feels good about himself when his kids grow up and have shitty relationships because his son is too afraid of hurting the woman’s feelings to help her and his daughter scares guys away because of her misplaced sense of independence. *Hope it doesn’t turn out that way, but since he used the term “mansplain,” I doubt his ability. Aside from that, I find it funny how he doesn’t point out the age of the kids. An older sibling always helps a younger sibling, regardless of sex.

(c_megalodon25)
This isn’t mansplaining. This is older sibling trying to take over what younger sibling is doing. My 10 year old daughter pulls this same shit on my 7 year old son. As a parent, you try to stop it, but it’s not specific to gender.

(hauntedskin)
That's what I hate about "mansplaining"; it's injecting sex into something that isn't necessarily specific to either sex, especially when we already have perfectly serviceable sex-neutral terms, such as patronising, back seat gaming, and ultracrepidarian.

I would have just as much issue if people tried to coin "womoaning" for women complaining about things, as though both sexes don't do that.