And then Fontaine was banned for being the closest their community currently has to a reasonable human being.
Some members of incel forums are misogynistic, others are not.
This is a reasonable assumption to make about any sort of group of people - back around when we quoted the first two or three of your ilk, it'd be reasonable to assume that not all of them are misogynists, yes - but when you actually look into the composition of this group and read the kinds of things they post, even at most favorable there's a disproportionate amount of users on your forum that are, in fact, violently misogynistic, who have gone as far as suggesting things like punching pregnant women in the belly as some ill-defined form of "revenge" and who view any sort of tragedy that befalls anyone other than them, including acid attacks, rapes, beatings, and murders as "life fuel".
Incel literally means involuntary celibacy.
The problem here is that you want us to take the name literally when your conduct points towards a different interpretation entirely. Your focus, I'm assuming, is on involuntary, that you're simply average people who try to attract women and get rejected over minor, petty non-issues - like if your ilk gave a more favorable beginning impression, whenever I heard the word "incel" I'd imagine the kind of Casanova-wannabe you saw on sitcoms in the '80s and '90s, the guy who didn't show up as often but dressed up more than the rest of the cast, hit on every woman he met while on-camera, and got rejected every time, not because he's pushy and annoying, not because he's looking for a quick fling and the women in question find that disrespectful, but because it was simply a cheap and easy excuse to turn on the laugh track.
The thing is that's not the impression your group gives at all when every other post is whining about how "unfair" life is for expecting you to show basic human decency and not be rewarded for it with sex on-demand every day, reminding each other of violence and murder inflicted on women for the crime of being women to cheer each other up, and suggest preferable alternatives to treating women with respect that have included targeting minors, fucking animals, boning corpses and just straight murdering everyone who isn't part of your cult, when you're not instead suggesting just laying about doing nothing or, for those with some sort of work ethic, getting a job simply for the power it would give you over women that you could immediately begin abusing.
And as an aside we've already had several other "incels" try to define what, exactly, "incel" means, and all of them fell into the exact same trap that you yourself are once again dangerously close to becoming a victim to. The crux of your group's problem is that every other post on your forum suggests the vast majority of your users are amoral, egotistical sociopaths, and then any time someone from outside your forum looks in, you somehow have no idea why they come to the conclusion that you lack morals, have massively-overinflated egos, and display tendencies of sociopathy.