Quote# 105963[Love-shy.com FAQ on the friendzone]
Love-shys are sensitive people. They can get very enamored with those they fall for, but tragically, the objects of their affection don't usually like them back. Love-shys are often treated with the phrases "oh, you're such a nice guy, but I don't see you that way," or "sorry, I have a boyfriend" or the classic "I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship." The unaware, naive guy will stay stuck to the girl as a satellite, or "friend" if you will, in the vain hope that she will change her mind. Meanwhile, the girl has several relationships with other guys, and relays her sob stories to the friendzoned guy while giving him no sex.
So, what to do about friendzoning? Well, there's an entire forum on this site devoted to help, but if you believe you're in this predicament, we're going to give you one piece of advice right here: Break your "friendship" off now!
You will only suffer more emotional devastation and hardship in the long run. Do not pander any more to the girl, do not do extra, unwarranted things for her, in fact, it is best to cut off all contact with the girl and move on. Above all else, do not not not
listen to the advice out there that the girl might "change her mind!" There's a 99% chance she won't and you'll be stuck in the cold while you could have been eyeing other prospects.
Friendzoning is good for no one, really. It ruins the friendzoned guy, teaches the friendzoning girl that she can always have bootlickers serve her in return for nothing, and harms society by making it seem like love-shys are these bootlicking pushovers who don't deserve respect. Do not
give a girl unwarranted reward treatment! She has enough friends to yap about how bad her boyfriend is behind his back.
The important thing to understand is that the friendzone is an abusive relationship
for both parties involved, but it hurts the friendzoned guy worse, because he gets nothing out of it. If a girl turns you down, it will always hurt, no matter what. But you must move on or else even more humiliation. This is problematic in an environment where there is a scarcity of options, which encourages this behavior, but you must avoid this behvior, no matter how bad it feels or how scarce your options are.
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