30% of men in one particular NY campus are incels

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(_MiscLegend)
Notice how as they get closer to senior, the percentages drop more when referring to sex. Most (of the ones bound to do it that is) are either having it early (because timeline doesn't matter -- it's all looks/determinism) or rarities later -- or never at all. It's not some "effort to fit in and adapt" mostly -- it's you're either in or you're out (of that social/sexual caste and the benefits with it when you have sexual value and how this impacts social value/etc.)

"It only gets better with age/time, bro."

"College/school is shallow! It gets better later!"

If it (life) "got better after school" then we'd expect there to not be a slowly degrading trend of likelihood of sex (since validation/desire among other benefits are key to life quality). The ones who "never had sex" were probably never going to have done so anyways, in college or after/before/with no attendance/etc. Also notice how these are no tiny numbers: 30% of just one uni is very fucking significant. People used to think incels were only "a tiny minority of thousands on the interwebz" but doesn't seem like it anymore with all of these studies and shit showing how more than 1 in 6 men can very much count as incel, more or less (depending on exact definitions used, AKA just about sex).

What people fail to understand is that it isn't all about sex, but being wanted for sex coincides with a better life quality all around usually (social life; friends; content/feeling validated/wanted; not being depressed/lonely; not being less attractive and a target of lookism; etc.). So while it isn't merely about the sex itself it's the symptom that not being wanted for sex by anyone paints as your value in a social system and thus the other negative factors with it.

IOW: It's all looks pretty much and uncontrollable factors that seal your fate and experiences in life.

(advancedatheist)

What people fail to understand is that it isn't all about sex, but being wanted for sex coincides with a better life quality all around usually

I've been saying this for years. It's funny how the health scolds have a model for the flourishing man that involves diet, exercise, social engagement and so forth; but they treat the incel's sexual eviction as an irrelevancy to his objective well being.

The incel is also at a disadvantage in the work place, because when you have sexual relationships with girls early in life, at an appropriate age, you pick up skills from the experience which don't exist in isolation; these skills play a role in the bigger problem of knowing how to live competently in a world full of women. Women in the work place respect a male coworker more when they can see that a woman in his private life wants to spend time with him and presumably have sex with him.

(QN356bx)
I'd like to see if those happy people would still be happy if nobody was attracted to them. They all say live like me and you too will be happy! I have been eating healthy my entire life and cycle at least half an hour every day. The magic formula just doesn't work. I am attracted to women and wish to have sex with them. It's not like that goes away during the 30 minutes I spent cycling or the hour to prepare good food every day. I'm only free of those feelings when I sleep.