Toxic Masculinity?
43% of boys are raised by single mothers. 78% of teachers are female. So, close to 50% of boys have 100% feminine influence at home and 80% feminine influence at school.
Toxic masculinity isn’t the problem. The lack of masculinity is.
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Okay, I'll say it again, but a little different.
I agree, there's no toxic masculinity . . . because there is no masculinity.
No, masculine, no feminine . . . only human. All the things you thought were masculine? Women do them too. All the things you thought were feminine? Men do them too. And the numbers for both are a lot more even in childhood than you expect . . . and they don't change until some dipshit starts telling them one thing is for boys, the other is for girls. This is when the toxicity sets in, when you tell them that what they feel and what they like don't match with their genitals, and they start to wonder what's wrong with them when nothing is.
So Kathy Zhu, shut the fuck and start teaching kids how take care of their problems effectively instead of bitching because we're tired of you telling boys they need to get into fist fights every day, while telling girls they can't fight at all.
In a sense, I agree that the lack of positive male role models in a young boy’s life is very problematic; a boy needs a good, nurturing, and protective father as well as a good, nurturing, and protective mother. If that need is not met: a boy might feel neglected, lost, and eager to look to poor male role models in his community or in the media for guidance. Regardless, toxic masculinity tends to be the result of harmful and negligent male influences, such as an absent or emotionally distant father who unwittingly teaches his son to act the same way. As Kanna already noted, toxic masculinity perpetuates itself. Fathers should be more present and active in the lives of their children; they should teach their sons to settle disputes peacefully and express their emotions in healthy, harmless ways, thereby shunning violence and emotional repression. As long as they consistently practice these values, their sons will be more likely to uphold them. Mothers can certainly impart these values as well, but boys may find it more natural to emulate and relate to their fathers.
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So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
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