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Shades of (white) privilege: a sociologist compares the experiences of Swedish female expats in America and Singapore

(Jorggo)
We know this already but it helps to have it written in paper for people who still deny white privilege doesn't exist.

Also, something I found problematic in the article highlights one of the key issues that relates to WMAF/dating.

The article states that Swedish women didn't enjoy a premium for their whiteness in Singapore like they did in America and were considered to be below Chinese women. This tells me that Asian men in Singapore don't put white women above Asian women. That seems to be reciprocated by the Swedish women as well. "They showed the least bit interest in the Asian men and in fact they felt less feminine".

However, the opposite was true for the Swedish men and the Chinese women. It's interesting that even when unintended, the issue of WMAF still manages to pop its head in.

White women seem to feel more masculine in Asia and I feel this may also translate to them feeling more masculine around Asian men because they see how "feminine" Asian women are so of course it's only plausible for them to think that they're more masculine in comparison.

I always thought it was weird whenever I saw white women in Asia, they would 9.9/10 be with white men but not the same for the white men. Granted I couldn't verbalize it at the time but it still made a disconnect in my brain.

I don't really have a point to make here just that I never took into account that XFs may be dissuaded from pursuing AMs because they feel more masculine which probably makes our already dire situation worse.

(ferdyberdy)
I could never date white women. I found the few that I associated and went out with to be very indulgent, impractical, only had short term goals and almost always gave in to their emotions.

Yes which is what caused you to make the broad conclusion you led with. It’s a bit hypocritical to do that when we experience the same broad brushing.

What broad strokes/conclusion mate? I referred everything to specifically "the few that I associated and went out with" and because of that "I could never date white women" <- is that the broad conclusion? that I do not find white women suitable partners?

I'm not going to be dishonest and say I'm ready to try my luck and put up with one more just for internet points.

Here is another broad brushstroke for you. Also, as an Asian can you really honestly say that you find marrying into white culture appealing?

I am married to an Aussie. She and her family is awesome. No gender race or culture is monolithic. Just as I wouldn’t want to be prejudged for my race or culture I don’t do it to others.

Is it prejudice just because I have chosen to make a practical decision on this?

The cultural differences are well documented. I'm not from China but I just put it there because the scores were similar to my country (at least in comparison to Australia).

https://www.hofstede-insights.com/country-comparison/australia,china/

I prefer to marry into a culture that has more long term orientation/planning and less indulgent. Perhaps those traits are awesome (pretty subjective word by the way) to you, but it is not to me.

If its prejudgement to avoid wasting my time by gearing my dating preferences towards a partner and a culture that is more likely to yield qualites that I seek in a partner then guilty as charged.

I never said it applied to all white girle by the way. Just enough to warrant me moving on to avoid wasting my time.

(Your gonna get downvoted becuase alot of chan lurkers around here worship the ground mayo girls walk on.)

I do not blame them if they find such traits attractive. Someone has to at the end of the day and there is a reason why it perpetuates in culture.

I'm not particularly wealthy so I do not have the funds or the time to try my luck with girls who are less likely to value long term stability over immediate gratification. No amount of political correctness will change how frequent each trait is found in either culture.

An interesting insight into white social signalling.

It appears that all they are after is still only validation and relevance. Self-actualization has no value of no one knows about it. Any altruistic endeavours (feminism for example) they appear to support seems just be an effort to fulfil that need for validation and acknowledgement.

(TehInternets)
To most whites "self actualization" is a byword that means travel and taking pictures in 3rd world locations, showing off their minority "friends" or taking part in safe, prescribed activities carefully curated to look prestigious. Contrary to popular belief whites are neither adventurous, free thinking nor individualistic.

None of these activities have anything to do with the "self". White culture is not about feeling but pretending.

The ideal is light-skin but not pink-skin.

Pretty easy to see why white women in Asia do badly. They age faster, they are less feminine, less thin, they are excessively narcissistic and have a superiority complex which I really think is just penis-envy. Blonde nordic women are seen to represent the apex of these traits so they are largely ignored by men.

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