Its about how people blame us for our problems.
No shit...or are you going to blame all women for your problems, or a weak chin, or "cucks," or whatever other dumbass excuses you and yours have piled up.
LIFE LESSON I: If every single person you meet, or even every single woman you meet, finds you disgusting...well, all those relationships have one common element: You.
I, like so many before me, will now waste some of the time I've set aside to read the rest of The Disaster Artist (note to fellow posters: I recommend it) and try to explain this to you without resorting to crude drawings done in crayon.
...platitudes about ugly people also being in happy relationships...
Those aren't mere platitudes; they're statements of fact that describe something that goes on all the time. As in, it's not rare.
Take my own situation, for example, (because why the hell not; it's one I know well): I have not been, uh, blessed with conventionally good looks (nor an especially strong attachment to matters of wardrobe, other aspects of appearance, or hygiene). I have the mind, personality, and history of an individual admittedly odd enough to challeng quite a few peoples' senses of what ought even to be.
In short, not a good catch.
I was content to live alone, die alone, and try to pay some of my debts in between.
People generally either really like me or, um, not. Not a lot of middle-ground there so, yes, I know what it's like to be isolated too.
This is, in part, why I now work as a contractor: Because, as a contractor, I can work alone.
Then, many years ago, and against all odds, I met someone who had, in personality, much of what I lacked. Some people dismissed SO outright despite good "chemistry", many times because they wanted a partner with a wider range of physical abilities; a partner who looks more...average. My spouse has a prodigious intelligence and sharp wit; a genuine, warm, and caring personality.
For some people, that's not enough.
Tell yourself the truth: Is it enough for you?
LIFE LESSON II: Let's say you walk past 100 people, none of whom have yet to be assailed by the stench of your personality.
No matter how conventionally unattractive you may (or may not) be, perhaps five in that 100, two or three of whom might be suitably unattached elsewhere will find you, if not good looking, then at least intriguing enough to show interest. If you show those people the same courtesy and set a realistic standard for how your partner should look, then you can say goodbye to your life as an incel and join even the least of us in one of the best parts of being alive: Real, lasting, loving friendship with an intimate partner.
That could be yours, incel, no joke. To get anywhere near it, however, you need to pay attention.
Normies don't understand that what incels want is to feel valued on the sexual marketplace.
Wrong again. We do understand that. I mean, who the hell does not want to feel valued?
Here's the part where you should be paying the most attention:
Your "sexual marketplace" is, for many people, a temporary stop - a waypoint on the road to a longer-term commitment.
Another thing you - i.e., incels as a subgroup - fail to grasp is that the women you (a) demonise for not wanting to fuck you, or (b) mock for failing to meet your arbitrary standards of a physical beauty generally...almost universally
want the same thing you do: To feel valued.
LIFE LESSON III: And in a serious relationship, both parties must, if they hope to maintain harmony and happiness over the long term, treat each other by some variant of the Golden Rule and esteem the other as being higher than self in terms of priority.
An SO will care for you when you need it and help you out and root for you when you need it almost like a friend.
Uh, yeah. No shit. We get that. You don't: You're too self-centred or unlearned to recognise your SO will want most of the same things from you as you do from her...and she won't be "like a friend"; she'll be a close friend - and the longer you are together, the closer that friendship becomes. (There's a lot more to this, but this information is a good starting point.)
LIFE LESSON IV: Of course you can be friends with people of the opposite' sex. In fact, if you want an enduring relationship capable of thriving across the span of a lifetime, friendship and trust are two of several important traits you need to develop within the relationship (and on your own). Others include forgiveness, patience, tolerance for some mistakes, and acceptance of the other person's idiosyncrasies
Normies don't just get that. They are too egoistic, self-centred to hear other people out who are hurting and realize the reality of things.
Since "normies" succeed where you're failing, one would think you'd take their advice instead of instantly spurning it and then chasing that with the claim other people are the ones ignorant of how the world works.
I don't know how old you are, but my guess would simply be, 'very young.' Pull your head out of your ass or you'll spend a lot of time alone.
