I don't hate most incels; I hate the belief, which permeates and poisons the subculture, that they're entitled to pair bond
with women of specific appearance, however they themselves may look. (Women shouldn't judge them on their looks, they “reason,” but they judge women solely by looks all the time.)
regardless of how they act. (Listen, lurkers.)
If they're rejected, it must surely be the woman's fault for not immediately discerning their good sides, choosing to ignore their faults (which are legion), and giving up whatever she has going for herself so that she might coddle them.
If this were just about sex, incels would hire prostitutes. It's about a perfectly human desire to find a companion; a mate.
But, however much they hate to hear this, they're doing it wrong. (The only common element in serial rejection is the incel.)
Listen, incel lurkers. Shut down that looping internal monologue of entitlement and victimhood. When people - including people considered conventionally unattractive - tell you they (a) have long-term partners / spouses with whom they're very happy, and (b) are willing to give you pointers on how to get the same, you should listen.
You'll notice I've used this term three times already: LISTEN. It's a rare person indeed who'll date someone who dominates the conversation but won't concentrate enough on what the other person is saying to respond appropriately. (If this happens on a first date, there won't be a second.)
Know how I know you don't listen? Because you openly despise advice. It's allll wrong; none of it fits you because it failed over the five-minute period you "tried" to sound civil.
