Ok I was a blind trans ally, then I was an agressive radfem who was just angry, then I became actually curious about them and tried not to be too harsh, to understand and to respect them as ideological opponents, and now I can definitely say FUCK THEM. There is no justification to disrespect, to selfishness, to them always insulting, dehumanising us and invalidating our experiences us with their language (cis, terf, afab) etc.

You're not bigoted to feel bad about their shit. They're not right in everything they do. They better learn it themselves. You have the right to have boundaries and to be respected just like them and everybody else. His problems are not your problems and no one owes him anything. Please listen to your own feelings and don't neglect them