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I know I'm going to be downvoted to hell for saying this, but I think most of the negative aspects of having sex as a young person (especially females) come from society's views on sex. If you found out later that you were "used," why would that matter unless you were tricked into thinking your virginity or your genitals are sacred?

Yes, a 25 year-old might be using a 15-year old for sex, but how is that any different than a 15-year old boy doing the same? What if the 25-year old explicitly states that he just wants her for sex and nothing else?

Furthermore, if we're going to talk about maturity, why is 18 the magic number? Why not 25 when the brain is fully matured?


I was in a relationship as a teenager with someone in university. It was so easy for him to use me and lie to me, because I was still very naive. I know that some of these relationships go well, but most that I know of were bad for the youngest partner because the power balance between partners wasn't like it should be. It is very easy for an adult to overpower and use a teenager, maybe even without knowing it.


Okay, but how were you hurt and how was that damage equivalent to being labelled a sex-offender for life and going to prison? If you had to choose between those two options (being lied and used vs prison and being labelled as a sex offender) which would you choose?

I agree that what he did to you was a dick-move, but unless he used physical intimidation, I think the punishments we're handing out are out of proportion. Do you think he deserves to be in prison?

Or like I asked another user... if I were a guy of the age of 25 with an IQ of 200 and I used and lied to a girl of the same age with an IQ of 90, does that warrant that kind of punishment since it's essentially the same dynamic? It'd be just as easy for me to lie to her and use her.

Again, I think this has more to do with the fact that women are taught to value their virginity and sex in irrational ways.


I was depressed for a year and needed a few more to get my confidence back..

The adult chooses for the relationship, much more than the child (s)he has a relationship with.

That I was hurt with that relationship had nothing to do with how society views sex, unless it's the other way around: not 'putting out' after a certain time of being together is 'not done', and certain gender roles made his behaviour seem ok.


You didn't answer any of my questions so I don't know how to respond to this.

This happens with adults. Should an adult who uses a depressed adult go to prison?

Okay, so assuming you weren't feeling slut shamed, how is that hurt any different than a guy your age doing the same thing? Should a guy your age who had the ability to trick you into sex go to prison?

If I use a friend for his/her video game system and they find out (which hurts them), should I go to prison?

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