It all boils down to two undeniable facts that normies can't accept...
1) The girl does the choosing.
If she likes you enough, she will let you know one way or the other. Trying to proceed without getting chosen is called harassment. This is why approaching is useless (unless you're exceptionally attractive, and the bad news is this doesn't apply to any of us).
And the reason that most of us are here (and arguably the single biggest reason the term "incel" exists in the first place)...
2) You need to be PHYSICALLY attractive enough to get chosen.
Talking about grooming, personality, confidence or attitude all flies out the window in the face of these two impassable facts. Now, I'll admit that once you've been deemed attractive, these things start to matter, but trying to talk about them beforehand is an exercise in futility.
Enough said.
14 comments
I doubt this guy has a job, or if he does, it's not a job that involves working with the public.
I work retail, and I have customers come in all the time who are in relationships and guess what? A lot of them are about as far from conventionally attractive as you can get.
Being a jerk who refuses to work is WAY more unattractive than any physical characteristic could be.
"the single biggest reason the term "incel" exists in the first place"
Is the existence of guys who *insist* the world OWES them to let them be what TV Tropes calls Pornomancers: people who can get laid at any time without even trying. Their mere presence is enough to get would-be sex partners of theirs in the vicinity to start desiring to lose the 'would-be' part.
"The reason this description DOESN'T fit me, quite the contrary," the incel thinks "is because the world hates me just for the hell of it!"
The first one isn't ENTIRELY stupid. Throughout the animal kingdom, females are often the ones who select mates and males are the ones who compete to be selected. That's not an absolute law, though, so still fundy.
And the rest is garbage.
Trying to proceed without getting chosen is called harassment.
Only because subtlety isn't part of your vocabulary. Nor is respect. "Proceeding" in your case would mean hovering over them, calling them all manner of horrible things based on which set of genitals they were born with, then demanding they go with you, and throwing a shit-fit when the angry hate-filled manbaby, unsurprisingly, doesn't get picked.
The girl does the choosing - but you belittle the components of the charm that you're going to need if you get chosen: "...grooming, personality, confidence or attitude..."
Sounds like you're cutting your own throat here.
1) The girl does the choosing.
Yeah; That's how it is in nature, too. The male does his weird mating ritual and the female makes the choice. It's you who want to fudge nature. We are animals, after all!
Thank your lucky stars that you're not an Anglerfish, Praying Mantis or a male Black Widow spider.
Also; Attraction should be mutual....they choose each other.
So you're saying that you'd say yes to literally any woman who propositioned you - no matter the situation, their attractiveness, age, your current relationship status, or simply whether or not you felt like it? Because if so, that sounds like a "you" problem.
Here's what I don't get. Incels don't have sex, okay. They feel this is a problem so some of them ask people who have had sex. Those people give advice. Then instead of following that advice because clearly it worked for somebody else, they reject that advice and go off on their own tangents, following the lead of other incels who also haven't had sex. Talk about the blind leading the blind...
@Hu's on First
Good point. I've worked various jobs where I've dealt with the public throughout my life. I currently work at a gas station, in fact. I've certainly seen enough couples where I've thought one was more attractive than the other.
Or, hell...the sexiest woman I've ever known in my freaking life, the woman who I would have married if that was possible...wasn't really the most attractive girl ever, to me. I mean, she was pretty, don't get me wrong, but it was other things beside her looks attracted me to her.
1 Is true with most mammalian species but with our own it`s a bit more complicated, actually both mates must actively choose each other and yes I know it`ll go right over your head but the male does as much of the "choosing" as the female does. Our first date we both "danced" for each other`s attention and affection, both showing off our strong points and accentuating our personalities top check if we were compatibile. We moved in together after about two weeks of dating. Nowadays we pretty much spend all our time together like it`s some stoner version of a disney fairy tale(playing Xenoverse while watching DBZ abridged with wifey is his current pleasure, living the nerd bliss which will be forever denied to your kind). When you dismiss the mental compatibility out of the gate, YOU ARE GOING TO FAIL EACH AND EVERY TIME.
If she isn't into you, get the fuck over it and move on.
For the millionth time, I've seen guys who are short, overweight and not what you'd call conventionally attractive do just fine with women. The difference is that they aren't a whiny, entitled, shallow manbaby who thinks that he's owed a hot girlfriend just for existing. I keep saying that "incels" basically embody the cliché about millennials receiving a trophy just for taking part only in their case, it's, "I deserve a lingerie model just because I have a penis."
Unfortunately, "incels" tend to dismiss guys who have a girlfriend or wife who isn't, "a solid 7 to 10" as being a "cucked beta orbiter". Because at the end of the day, these jerks are just as superficial as they always whinge women are.
Harassment isn't "doing something that somebody doesn't like". Harassment is actually defined as continuing to interact with a person after they have stated they aren't interested or that they want to be left alone.
Your problem isn't approaching women, it's you not going away when they tell you to buzz off.
Confused?
So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
To post a comment, you'll need to Sign in or Register . Making an account also allows you to claim credit for submitting quotes, and to vote on quotes and comments. You don't even need to give us your email address.